Comments on: Parenting an Out of Control Child https://www.positiveparenting.com/parenting-an-out-of-control-child/ Parenting, Parent Coaching, Child Behavior Wed, 09 Apr 2014 18:31:02 +0000 hourly 1 By: Deborah Godfrey https://www.positiveparenting.com/parenting-an-out-of-control-child/#comment-3342 Wed, 09 Apr 2014 18:31:02 +0000 http://positiveparenting.com/BePositive/?p=985#comment-3342 In reply to Miller.

Dear Miller,

You sound frustrated, over-worked and on the brink of exhaustion (or insanity!) While I certainly can empathize with the intensity of parenting adhd kids, you would be surprised how much my “tactics” have worked for parents with kids with ADD, ADHD, ODD, ETC… While I agree, not all parenting tools work with all kids, having more tools ALWAYS helps, and gaining a new perspective ALWAYS give a parent a break and a new place to start.

Most parents don’t have very good parenting skills to begin with, and add to that a child with a diagnosis, and you have described yourself perfectly. I like to give parents such as you ideas that can help you figure out which part of the child’s behavioral issues are (or could be) made worse by your parenting style, and which are bona fide-diagnosis-related-problems-parent-can’t-redirect. When the basic parenting skills are in place, then getting the help of a professional skilled with your particular child’s diagnosis is WAY more helpful.

Try my teleclass, you may find some fun ideas to make your parenting more rewarding and less crazy-making.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts here.

Happy Parenting!
Deb

]]> By: Miller https://www.positiveparenting.com/parenting-an-out-of-control-child/#comment-3324 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 23:56:28 +0000 http://positiveparenting.com/BePositive/?p=985#comment-3324 Ha. Ha.ha. I have an a.d.d child all 4 of them actually. 2 play the worse dieing scene out. They live in seperate homes those two, one with me one with my mom. She’s now 7. It’s daily. Hair brushing left me wanting my own little girls head shaved bald. For a while I thought it was just her. But I now know something else is going on here. She’s got thin hair I keep it short. I do NOT brush it unless we are running behind. I’m a.d.d as well and so this is a fun box of craziness. We use conditioner when we can.. her hair turns stringy with it and spray detangler. But she can always wear it down and thatis no fun. She begs she pleads . The fit starts before she’s even in position. Don’t get me started on a very superficial scrap or nothing evident but you would think a monster must be clawing out of the boo boo. That’s where we see shower time. Just shoot me. She’s not dumb she knows she can get bandaid when she wants. If I asked her those type of questions she would scream and cry no no no no its going to hurt its going to hurt I don’t want you to do it I don’t want you to do it. If I mentioned getting the supplies all hell breaks loose even further as if it didn’t already seem like hell. I’ve tried allowing her to do the doctoring nuh uh. We have loads of bandaids colors characters. She could give a sh** less. This tactic is for the bird that wrote it. I don’t see any licensure accompanying your name with your answer. Assume your just a mother at least. I hope. Good thought process but not for kids w behavioral disorders. It won’t work and the screaming is enough to wonder when your mind will just shut down on you and put you in a nut house. I had to post for those in my situation. Ppl have no idea how real ad.d is and the possibilities that can steam from it. They may read this try fail and feel alone. But they shouldn’t.

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