Comments on: Kids Fighting in Car – Solved!

By: Sharon

Sharon — Tue, 20 Apr 2021 23:12:55 +0000

I’d like to try this but their fights are when we are on the freeway that goes 60-70mph. And a lot of times, we hit evening traffic. What do you do when pulling over would be more unsafe? Just wait for the next exit even if its several minutes away?

By: Emma Watson

Emma Watson — Tue, 16 Apr 2019 04:57:11 +0000

My Boyfriend Is so careful about this, When I tried to manage my child, then he easily does that’s. I am confused about how he can. He is a school teacher He tries to make them understand the importance of concentration while driving

By: Amy G

Amy G — Sun, 12 Nov 2017 00:25:47 +0000

While I have never tried this method of pulling the car over when my children were fighting, I can say that I would pick my battles of when I wanted to intervene, and I do agree that silence can be powerful. There were times that I could not be silent, but as time went by, I chose which fights were appropriate to simply ignore by being silent. Many times it worked!

By: Sephora C.

Sephora C. — Sun, 29 Jan 2017 19:16:23 +0000

I tried so many things to stop backseat fights of my kids. Failed terribly. I pull over my car every time they start arguments. Then I try to make them understand about the importance of concentration while driving. Apparently they don’t give a sh*t. That’s why I have to UBER a lot.

By: Tess

Tess — Fri, 12 Aug 2016 22:24:01 +0000

I’m concerned about what happens to the child getting whacked whilst you are trying to pull over. I had 3 incidences of this while driving on motorways when I couldn’t pull
Over. Luckily not driving too fast. I unfortunately have the instinct to grab my 10 yr old who was laying into my 7 yr old. I grabbed him hard and with newly long fingernails and managed to scrape his skin quite badly. I felt awful but was furious that they would behave so dangerously when I have to concentrate on driving on a dangerous motorway. I need to restrain my self but I find it hard to effectively sit there and let him attack his little brother

By: Deborah Godfrey

Deborah Godfrey — Wed, 09 Mar 2016 17:33:54 +0000

In reply to Hillary. This is exactly the point of pulling over. Once they understand you are serious and consistent, they actually behave better not worse. You can listen to my 4-minute Pep Talk on what to do when you're driving and they're fighting.

By: Hillary

Hillary — Thu, 03 Mar 2016 12:57:26 +0000

They already know that what they are doing is wrong. I cant just keep pulling over every time they start the noise. I bet once she starts moving again, they will continue. There must be another way out.

By: Deborah Godfrey

Deborah Godfrey — Wed, 01 Apr 2015 16:06:36 +0000

In reply to Deidra.

Deidra,

The point is, if you follow this advice, they won’t fight in the car anymore!

https://app.box.com/shared/gyzajb8dua

By: Deidra

Deidra — Wed, 01 Apr 2015 12:02:36 +0000

If I pulled the car over every time my kids fought I’d never make it to our destination and forget it if I plan on being on time!

By: Deborah Godfrey

Deborah Godfrey — Wed, 17 Sep 2014 08:26:30 +0000

In reply to laquetta. I teach how to discipline without using punishment. Punishment has many side effects, including eroding our relationship with our kids so we lose influence over them. Better to discipline with love rather than fear.