Comments on: Deciding to Spare the Rod https://www.positiveparenting.com/deciding-to-spare-the-rod/ Parenting, Parent Coaching, Child Behavior Fri, 25 Mar 2016 15:46:47 +0000 hourly 1 By: Deborah Godfrey https://www.positiveparenting.com/deciding-to-spare-the-rod/#comment-43172 Fri, 25 Mar 2016 15:46:47 +0000 http://positiveparenting.com/BePositive/?p=961#comment-43172 In reply to Jodi.

Hi Jodi,

Try not to be too hard on yourself. Get some better tools! I have a class Monday night that you can register for and there is a time to ask questions at the end.

If you don’t want to wait, you can listen to the recording of the call I did on March 7 here. Please let me know if you have any questions.

Debbie

]]> By: Jodi https://www.positiveparenting.com/deciding-to-spare-the-rod/#comment-43171 Fri, 25 Mar 2016 15:22:05 +0000 http://positiveparenting.com/BePositive/?p=961#comment-43171 I am in tears reading this after the morning I had with my 5 year old daughter. It was horrendous. I see clearly the fact that spanking doesn’t work. But I feel completely HELPLESS to do anything else about it. Please help me. The power struggles are out of control. I feel out of control and I’m sure she does too.

]]> By: Tiffany https://www.positiveparenting.com/deciding-to-spare-the-rod/#comment-40331 Mon, 07 Dec 2015 13:58:05 +0000 http://positiveparenting.com/BePositive/?p=961#comment-40331 So true.. just ask yourself how does it feel to be hit by somebody you love

]]> By: Deborah Godfrey https://www.positiveparenting.com/deciding-to-spare-the-rod/#comment-26198 Thu, 15 Jan 2015 19:54:47 +0000 http://positiveparenting.com/BePositive/?p=961#comment-26198 In reply to Linda.

Don’t be so hard on yourself! Come to my class! http://positiveparenting.com/positive-parenting-teleclass/ I’ll give you so many ways to discipline that you won’t need to resort to spanking. Take care of yourself!

]]> By: Linda https://www.positiveparenting.com/deciding-to-spare-the-rod/#comment-26190 Thu, 15 Jan 2015 16:43:05 +0000 http://positiveparenting.com/BePositive/?p=961#comment-26190 In reply to cyp.

I’m in tears , reading this- I want to be a better parent. But I find myself using the spanking method- I WANT TO STOP THIS-
I do not use this hardy ever, but when I do I feel its valid.-But still I feel there HAS TO BE alternatives-rather than corporal punishment.

]]> By: laquetta https://www.positiveparenting.com/deciding-to-spare-the-rod/#comment-10379 Wed, 10 Sep 2014 07:06:10 +0000 http://positiveparenting.com/BePositive/?p=961#comment-10379 First i would love to be my kidsrole model. No I wouldnt give up on discipline but I could alternate how I discipline, “because I normally Just put then on their knees mins, well thats what I been doing all this year. I could take his game more often or no snacks, but it seems like he gets adjusted to certain punishments like he know he cant be punish forever

]]> By: Deborah Godfrey https://www.positiveparenting.com/deciding-to-spare-the-rod/#comment-2491 Mon, 03 Mar 2014 16:07:20 +0000 http://positiveparenting.com/BePositive/?p=961#comment-2491 In reply to cyp.

What is obvious to me is completely different from what is obvious to you. For me, by eliminating corporal punishment, I teach (no need for quotes around the word teach here as the children “really” learn from my stance) my children that no matter what, I will not physically harm them. I will use a different of discipline that will actually correct their misbehavior, that at the same time teaches them that they can learn from their mistakes, repair them, and still retain my love and affection. They do not repeat the same mistakes over and over. They learn to respect me, and I have influence with them when they are teenagers. Instead of harming others as I have harmed them (were I to use spanking) they learn compassion for others and doing the right thing for the right reasons. The research backs my viewpoint, both in regard to spanking and also to the positive outcome with positive parenting and non-violent forms of corrective discipline. I can teach you the tools that make this possible!

]]> By: cyp https://www.positiveparenting.com/deciding-to-spare-the-rod/#comment-2487 Mon, 03 Mar 2014 13:42:23 +0000 http://positiveparenting.com/BePositive/?p=961#comment-2487 you of course do not realize the obvious. By eliminating corporal punishment, you “teach” the children that no matter what their actions are there are no consequences. And even if you use another type of punishment the child will get used to it. That leads to adults that do not learn from their mistakes and keep doing the same things that hurt them and others.

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