Comments on: How Mom made 3 yr old child stop spitting

By: Phoebe

Phoebe — Wed, 26 Feb 2025 04:29:04 +0000

Hi a child of 8 is stressed over spitting as he talks and he doesn’t have a friend at school .

By: JH

JH — Mon, 20 Jan 2025 19:10:18 +0000

In reply to Scipii.

Hi Scipii,
I’m sorry you’re going through this. I am not a professional but I do foster kids who can have lots of behaviors. The foster parenting classes I’ve taken always say to start with connection. If ‘time outs/time ins” aren’t working, try focusing on creating a positive connection. This will not happen right away, but the more you can ‘catch’ them being good, and give very specific praise, and try to be silly and fun with them, the more they will want that positive attention. Then time out or time in might suddenly be a much more effective tool. Maybe even start with the 8 year old? If it seems the littles follow his lead.
Good luck! I know how gross it is to be spit on. Try to be someone she wants to like, then be very clear that spitting hurts your feelings.

By: Tracy

Tracy — Thu, 27 Jun 2024 01:40:35 +0000

In reply to Donna.

Thank you!!! For us, it’s not just making the sound of a leaf blower, which makes him spit everywhere. He is the most defiant child I’ve ever experienced. He’s 3 1/2. But, I have two boys/men 26 & 23. They just knew my expectations were law. I never had repetitive issues with them and never had to spank or anything. So, this is crazy! Actually, I knew one child with 100% defiant issues when he came to my son’s sleepover. Come to find out it’s was because his mother told him not to listen to anything I said. She did the same thing with his step mother who is a teacher at his school. I’m all about manners, morals, and safety. But, my son thinks it’s funny when he’s in trouble with either me or his Dada.
Just getting a No-No bowl of apple cider vinegar with q-tips on top has made him catch himself when he starts to make the spitting noise. (Sigh of relief)
The woman who helped raise my husband and I at the home daycare in the ’80s, used to put soap in the kids mouth for saying bad word. We are all still friends and we have always called her our second mom, will full love in our hearts. Nothing she did ever ruined any relationship with her and her funeral was standing room only.

By: yusra

yusra — Sun, 01 Mar 2020 09:36:53 +0000

i was little , but i remember i did that thing and my mother said ” i used to do that but then i got this mole on my neck ! and if you spit like this you will get one”.That tricked worked on me.

By: Bec

Bec — Sun, 22 Sep 2019 14:32:55 +0000

In reply to Lynn. Great but the teacher can’t do anything about it while she has 20 other students to teach and deal with complaints from parents of the children who are getting spit on. The administrators will not come help in the classrooms to assist.

By: Nate

Nate — Mon, 06 Aug 2018 00:23:06 +0000

Have you tried the strong father/mother method?… includes fear stare down, a one liner that will be a staple of “I’m definitely in trouble”, and a belt .. if you dont agree with this method then are you really willing to try everything to keep your kid from becoming a future public issue for all of us?

Never did I ever have to get spanked by my dad, all it took was a look , a marine stare down, and that was it

By: Kurtis

Kurtis — Sat, 04 Aug 2018 07:52:49 +0000

Hi.I have a 4yr old nephew. He still can’t talk.only few words like mum. Dad.car . he keeps spitting on people when he doesn’t like something .tried to make him sit back like you said but instead of calming him. He threw himself down and hitting his head on the floor. At school its the same problem,him hitting friends or spitting. His teacher let him scribble or do anything as he is not interested in the class. He also gets help from the support teacher but no improvement. Can someone help or guide me.ty

By: Barbara Vorel

Barbara Vorel — Wed, 30 May 2018 13:19:33 +0000

Hi – I have a 3.5 year old and he has this same spitting issue. My issue is that he does not seem to understand this whole “time out” concept because he does not yet developmentally understand cause and effect. I am a single Mom and I think part of the problem is that he always has an audience because my mother is always around. But the spitting occurs even when she isn’t. Any time I tell him NO or ask him to do something he doesn’t want to do, he spits in my face. if i put him in time out, he does’t even sit for 5 seconds and he escalates to melt down immediately. The most frustrating thing is that he turns it on and off like a light switch. I feel like I am losing this battle. Any thoughts or suggestions would be welcomed.

By: Vish

Vish — Wed, 13 Dec 2017 07:38:16 +0000

I have a 3 yo son who is still non verbal and doesnt utter
A single word..he knows few words which he says when prompted..Now for the last 10 days he has got habbit of spitting
And we believe he does for fun or when he gets angry..we have got him evalutaed for non verbal part and the doc says he doesnt
Come under ASD but we have to take him out lots and not show him mobiles or computers..Anyone here has same problem like non verbal and picked up habbit of spitting?

By: Jamie

Jamie — Sat, 18 Nov 2017 02:54:01 +0000

My son is going to be 3 in Dec an he is so smart an a fast learner but I need help. He is in daycare an has been doing very good but he has been having some not so good days for ex. He loves to climb on everything an he jumps from where he is off recently the spitting is new when throwing his fits but know its getting really bad he picked up a chair in daycare an threw it at anothef kid now he has never done that I just don’t know where all this anger is coming from. When he’s told not to do something an I tell him he will copy me an still do it what are ways to help with this he is my only child I just need help. My mom has recently passed a few months ago an now I don’t have her to help so I figured I would ask on here.