Comments on: Bedtime Without Struggling

By: Olayiwola Damilola

Olayiwola Damilola — Wed, 16 Feb 2022 14:20:04 +0000

The bedtime is always a struggle, I will start implementing this method from now on and see how it goes with my very first daughter ,i call her the “ENERGY PRINCESS” always active, never tired…sometimes I just want to lock myself up somewhere till she is asleep but with this right here, I believe it’s going to work for me and hope I’m able to gain back her respect because often times I feel disrespected and hurt when she drag with or refused to do somethings, and most times I spanked her or screamed at her but one thing i notice is that she is not a violent child with her being very active, she doesn’t get physical with anyone, she just want run and jump and talk and shout ,she want to be everywhere at the same time, want to be involve in everything and so on, this lecture has made me realized I need to redirect my steps and unlearn a lot of things …

By: Ashley

Ashley — Sat, 02 Jan 2021 15:36:27 +0000

In reply to Kyle Elliott.

Hi – What if your 2 year old child very sadly asks for hugs as you implement the no talking? Is it breaking the protocol to quietly hug her as you put her back to bed? Not sure if we’re blocking our success here… Thanks!

By: Iva

Iva — Sun, 23 Feb 2020 15:14:28 +0000

In reply to cee.

First to say thank you for all of your detailed and loving support to parents around the world. Many of your techniques helped me already to be a better friend and not a boss of my children.

I don’t see how this bedtime routine is possible for a working parent with another parent away for work, with two toddlers 3,5yo and 2yo. I drew a map of this steps and hang it on my wall to try to implement little by little as doing all of this alone at once is impossible..

Thank you for all that you do for the future generation with positive parenting advising, and big hug for all parents around who manage to feel joy from the little things and enjoy the moment when it is. You have made it. ❤️

By: Kevin Smith

Kevin Smith — Sun, 12 Jan 2020 20:55:20 +0000

great advice, but what if 2 kids are in the same room and go to bed at the same time?
if one is good the other is generally not, which makes it hard.
and if sperate rooms might work if available, but you still could have one being difficult ant the other not so.

By: Julie

Julie — Sun, 09 Jun 2019 10:28:06 +0000

I love this! Connection and good questions to seek to understand from your child’s eyes. Sleep issues are the worst because everyone is exhausted and ready for sleep. Hard to keep your kind and creative juices. Wondering how you would suggest handle an older toddler who is crying in their crib not wanting to go to sleep? Seems simpler to lovingly put a toddler who gets out of bed back in with no words. How do you respond compassionately to a crying toddler in their crib?

By: Kyle Elliott

Kyle Elliott — Thu, 23 May 2019 07:54:21 +0000

My 3 years boy and I faced similar problem. This guide has helped me to solve the problem accordingly.

By: Mari

Mari — Thu, 21 Mar 2019 12:51:29 +0000

In reply to diane. liked

By: cee

cee — Tue, 13 Jun 2017 18:54:57 +0000

With the idea that it is so important to keep the negative very small and the good very big, not in a fake way because kids know when we are full of crap but in a real and sincere way. I am the mother of four daughters, two I raised the way society suggested, I spanked just one on the butt. I hated it, I didnt want to hit them, I liked them. I didn’t want them to be afraid of me and worried if I wasn’tthe monster in the corner did they get the lesson or was the lesson that the biggest and most powerful in the room makes the rules and if you are the meanest one in room then your the rightest in the room. It just wasn’t effective. So I had to come up with something else, screw whst society says, spanking is lazy useless parenting. To teach a child to be respectful by disrepecting them doesn’t teach respect. Speaking with your kids is the mostsimple and most eeffective way to understand what to do. Start there, are you sleepy? Why do you get so upset about going to bed? Dont you like baths? You might be surprised to hear the answer, maybe there is a branch dcaping the wall outside, there could be all kinds of things you didn’t realize. My younger two, loved going to bed and I was a single mom. I never made their room a bpenalty box. In my house I never forced anyone to mirror how I felt, if you were hungry eat, tired sleep. If I went to bed it was quiet time so I could sleep but they didn’t have to sleep. Babies were easy and as they got older they went to bed on their own. My youngest, goes to bed, gets up and as an honor student I never tell her to do her homework. I gave her her life and she set her eyes on what makes her feel happy and successful for herself. I give her information but the decisions are hers. She is far more strict on herself than I would be. She even gets up at 7am on Sundays to go to church with the neighbors, raising human beings is just that, raising humans not puppies. They have a right to be treated humanly

By: diane

diane — Fri, 21 Apr 2017 03:15:44 +0000

great advice, assuming you are a two parent family where daddy is a part of it all. Would love to hear about how a single mom or grandmother, in this case, fits in to your techniques.

By: kelly

kelly — Fri, 20 Jan 2017 13:32:49 +0000

I have 4 years aged daughter and I face this type of problem regularly. If I tell her to go to bed she refuse, but If I laid down then she goes to bed